What’s your true worth to you?

Being more available does not make you more valuable.

Read that again.

This morning I went to see my massage therapist and yoga teacher, Gem Williams.

She is an incredible practitioner, teacher and healer.

She helps me reset my neck and shoulders on a regular basis.

And helps me reset my nervous system too.

Today it was in serious fight or flight mode. I could physically feel myself shaking because I was choosing to take on the anxiety of others rather than tune into what I most need.

All because I momentarily resisted my own advice on placing boundaries.

This is despite me teaching this as a concept regularly.

We teach what we most need to learn, right?

As a young child, circumstances taught me that to “ be safe” I should be hyper vigilant to other people’s needs.

That’s played out throughout my work and my life in many ways.

I think this is the case for many people, especially women.

We need to be available, please others, show up and be willing.

No matter the cost to mind, body and soul.

And it’s entirely BS.

Saying yes to others, at any cost, means continually saying no to self.

Not cool. Or clever.

On your list of “most important people in your life” where do you feature?

Are you even on your own list?

Time is finite and the most crucial and permanent relationship we have in our lives is the one we have with ourselves.

So fill your own cup first and put yourself back at the top of your own list.